Relationships Advice

Relationships Advice

Are you dealing with break up pain, any way that you look at it, is not going to be an easy or a enjoyable task. A lot of people incorrectly believe that they will be able to manage their heartbreak, only to find out that carrying a torch for someone after a love affair is a lot like grieving.

At least if you look at the relationship as having passed on. When it comes to dealing with a broken intimate relationship, it is important that you look past the pain and find a way to survive even when things seem impossible for the time being.

Relationship breakup puts a lot of people through fear and misery in there life. Some of the people going through these feelings have no one in the world to turn to, and this is why people suffer so hard from heartbreaks in the first place.

Dealing with break up pain’s all by yourself can seem impossible at first, but consider how many people deal with love and loss in their lives and survive to talk about it. You too will be able to get over your feeling’s like a crippling break up, but only if you are willing to deal with heart break pain the right way, and the healthy way for that matter at hand.

So why is the pain from a lost love break up so difficult? Perhaps when dealing with a break up, it will seem as if you are the only one, who has suffered the kind of pain you’re going through. It is important that you continue to try to heal rather than allowing yourself to give up on the situation.

Dwelling on the painful split from your lover will not help you, so instead you should work on getting better and moving on, which will allow you to stop dealing with break up pain and start dealing with moving on and finding someone new, perhaps even someone that has a better dynamic with you.

What you can do to deal with your pain..

  • Spend time with your friends and let them help you get your mind off your heartbreak.
  • Don’t dwell on the bad feelings, but focus on the good parts of your life in order to promote healing.

Perhaps your friends will probably realize that you’re going through something serious, and they will more than likely dedicate themselves to trying to help you through it. If this is the case, don’t blow them off, because going out and spending time with your friends and the people that you care about will be extremely helpful when it comes to, Relationship Break Ups How To Deal With The Pain.

Everyone goes through a period where they are dealing with a break up, because everyone in life goes through a breakup. Rather than allow yourself to suffer while dealing with the breaking up.

What you should do is enjoy yourself and work on healing rather than allowing yourself to become stressed out, overwhelmed or depressed by your heartbreak. Perhaps this is meant to be, Life go’s on..

5 Responses to “How Dealing With A Relationship Break Up Can Be Rough”

  • Smashing Pumpkins:

    After chilling out in hs, i loved a woman, but was shy to state so, and years went past/we visit separate schools.

    In sophomore year, buddies of mine affected me, asking if my recently made frosh year female friend and up to date closest friend, and that i were together. However stages, I had been immature and childish about this, responding to no and adding things like yuck. Within the summer time after soph year, I recognized Used to do love her, however it was hard recognizing might I did not have it.

    Only at that same time, the lady I loved explained she did not wish to spend time because she was at rapport, however i never demonstrated any hints I loved her. She is a fairly friend.

    We spoken at first of junior year and removed some misconception i did not say I loved her currently since i was unsure. She requested basically still felt this way and that i just informed her like a friend which i loved her. Before TG, I informed her again, however it was uncomfortable so we release. It had been hurtful, however i did not quite externalize it. It simply is really a time I will not forget. Near that point, her parent authored in my experience and essentially stated to remain buddies and little else. Yes, the lady is really a different ethnic background than me. Also it appears to matter… At that time, I did not have aim of creating a relationship together with her, since i understood she did not have feelings, so I decided to have the ability to move ahead. This friend and that i had learned to actually trust one another and were really like close friends.

    Fast-toward spring, in an effort to move ahead, I leaped to stupid conclusions this new girl loved me and eager for this, however the confusing actions of caring, kindness, smiles, laughter, etc were indications of friendship, even saying she thought I had been attractive, which actually was unpredicted. I requested around and buddies thought she loved me. Not a chance. She did not. And… I did not be seduced by her. I almost did, but fortunately got things removed up before summer time. I learned I possibly could hold hands with my closest friend around the same time frame, but that’s not the way the semester ended. It ended using the clarification using the girl I misunderstood.

    When I result, I truly skipped my closest friend throughout summer time. We live far apart and because of lots of business/summer time school, could not retain in close contact.

    Throughout winter break before that spring, the lady who explained we should not spend time recommended we spend time, therefore we did. I still demonstrated no signs.

    Fast-toward this summer time, and that i recognized I actually do love my closest friend, whom the lady I misunderstood explained “You bf/gf ought to be your closest friend” that we wanted to think, but encounters demonstrated otherwise.

    Now, I’m stuck. As I still such as the other girl (same ethnic background) who I hung by helping cover their in the winter months breaks, I’m deeply in love with my closest friend that has proven it as being not reciprocal. I had been feeling guilty for getting the emotions but still spending time with her, but I’d rather not stop our close bond.

    A new comer to associations, didn’t have one.

    Girl I really like whom romantic feelings aren’t came back or girl I love but never told? Or… nobody?

    Be nice. This path continues to be rough.

  • Sergeant Pickle:

    I feel weird asking this to an internet forum, but I guess I won’t get an answer from anyone else…

    Anyways, I started seeing this guy about a month and a half ago. We totally clicked. I like him, he likes me. He has never given me any reason to suspect cheating, lying, etc. We even specifically stated that we were exclusive – he was the one to bring it up, not me. I tried avoiding getting my head too far into it, because I know that I tend to fall for guys that I like, and especially since I had just broken up with my ex about a month before I met this guy (I know it sounds fast, hopping from guy to guy, but it was a weird situation…anyways, I feel like it has no merit as to why I started dating again so soon). Ok so, I guess one part of our relationship that was potentially an issue was the fact that he is bisexual, and not out – I’m gay and out to the people who need to know. I guess it may seem like I am lightyears ahead of him, I know, and I was hesitant to start dating him because he was not as out as me. Regardless, since we started dating he came out to a few people – whether he was using me to come out, or not, I don’t really care, he told me he was planning on doing it anyways. Ok so, I was fine with the fact that he wasn’t out, because personally I’m not all that comfortable with my own sexuality so I felt like we related on that note. So we have been hanging out 2-3 nights a week, he has slept over at least once a week for the past 4 weeks. I was getting no weird vibes from him at all and everything seemed to be going fine. Last weekend he came out to his roommate after he drank a bottle of wine, and he has been seriously debating telling his brother, and another friend. On top of all of this he has school, work, other friends, and his family (which apparently is a little rough right now). I understand that this is a chaotic time for him, especially since I’m the first guy he has dated, fooled around with, etc. So tonight he sat me down in the park and told me that his life was too much for him and that he didn’t think he was ready to be in a relationship – and let me emphasize that this totally came out of the blue. I was at a loss for words, and very supportive of his decision. He even started crying. I’m not sure what to make of all of this. We clearly like each other, everything between us is fine. I understand that he is having a tough time with it all, but I really feel like it is an impulsive decision on his part. I really don’t think I’m the one to blame on this, nor him, I just feel so confused! I (stupidly) sent him a Facebook message telling him that everything was fine between us, that I understood his position, and I thanked him for treating me with respect, but I still feel like he made the wrong choice. We have so much potential, I feel. I don’t know if I should give him some space, or confront him, or what. Ugh, I just don’t know! Help!!

  • Jesse:

    I am 26 have been in love wid my class fellow for around 8 years now…Till last year, he wanted marriage. Now, suddenly, he has cleared me that his circumstances and family circumstances dont allow him to marry me although he really wants it..

    I was shocked n broken by this as i have given the best years of my life to this relationship..we are addicted to each other…our intimacy and chemistry is just fantastic..i don’t even have much frnds..n we share our problems, joys, successes..everything…He understands me more thn anyone..he bears my anger and mood swings in worst of times…cheers me up..makes me laugh..we had always made plans of our marriage, kids…i haven’t even thot of anyone else as my life partner…

    But Without the prospect of marriage, this relationship seems futile and pointless as I have no idea that how much more time would he need to change his mind..or maybe he never changes his mind..n i would end up alone..

    After his refusal, everything seems to come crashing down..despite trying a lot, i haven’t been able to delete him from my life…(we have many mutual friends)..i think of extreme steps now such as convincing his family to let us marry and many more weird ideas…which i know wont work…Now, my family and relatives are pressuring me into getting married to some other guy.

    I am just soo confused of this mess of emotions and feelings in my heart and brain..I try to be realistic and practical and tell myself that I can survive without him..I shud move on..and maybe a huge dramatic step such as getting married to another guy wud restart my life..n tht slowly i will get over him and start loving my husband..On the other hand..i feel i will never be able to love again and would become completly numb and maybe me n dt other guy would never develope any understanding and fondness for each other..n i wud be the unhappiest person on earth…I start getting nervous breakdown on idea of getting married to someone else…..i start vomiting with stress and depression…m loosing my health..my mind…i dont know wat to do…Please HELP!!!

  • JOHN KAISER PHD:

    as a scorpio i bottle up my feelings most of the time and never let them be known. yeah maybe once in awhile i open up to my friends a little but never all the way. ive never been in a situation where people could actually see that im vulnerable. and its hard bcos alot of times i just want to break down and cry. the thing is ive been in love with my ex ever since we dated 2 years ago and even after breaking up, we had no closure. as friends we had many rough patches and incidents where feelings came up again. it was too long stretched out a process. but then she met someone else and got into a long term relationship with him.

    we fell out for about a year after that but became friends again. her feelings just recently came back a little but this time I hid whatever feelings i had left for her… so right now she doesnt know that i harbor any. it really sucks bcos i love her so much but sometimes my intuition tells me its for the better (after all the pain i felt pining for her). some days i think i can make it, some days i feel really hopeless and like i cant go on. but everyday i think about her at some point. blame it on the scorpio obsessiveness. how does a scorpio get out of this rut?
    oh btw i’m a scorpio sun, libra moon and cancer ascendant

  • Alex:

    Ok well I asked something similar before…But here’s the situation. My gf who I’ve been with for a little over a year has just is going through a really rough time (mother was recently diagnosed with cancer, and father has skin cancer). And she said she needs time alone–pretty much no contact or very little.A couple of weeks or maybe a month or two with the way she sounded to have time alone because she is really stressed. I really do love her and although the wait will kill me, I don’t mind it. What do you think of this situation? if you’ve been in a similar one, was it a way to get rid of the guy? or did you really just need alone time to work through the traumas? Now she’s just told me she doesn’t feel the same way she used to and wants a full blown brreakup, it’s been about3 weeks going through this however the past 2 or 3 days she remained constant in what she’s said.when i’ve asked her if she thinks we’ll et back together she’s said no good news is, she agreed to come down from her dorm to talk and see me on valentines day as long as i don’t bother her at all In my head that’s a good sign and talking in person iis akways a good sign right? what do you think? think she’sll be willing to work something out on saturday? bad news is i know she lied o me about where’s she’s been a few times. could t possibly be bcause she thought i ewould bug her if she said she was at her dorm?

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