Whether you initiated your midlife divorce or found yourself suddenly out of the relationship you thought was stable, divorce makes a big impact on your life. Beyond the obvious physical challenges of splitting your finances and determining ownership of property are the psychological and emotional effects. Middle aged women often emerge from their years or decades of faithful marriage unsure of how to move forward in their lives. Defining yourself as a loving wife for a long period of time makes it painful to adjust to the newly single role again.
Divorce recovery is one of the best ways to find yourself again after ending a relationship. Even if you were only married for a short time, you changed your perception of you to fit your new role as a married woman. When you go through a divorce, you need to spend some time discovering who you are now instead of just going back to the woman you were before the marriage. Growing and learning from your experiences, gives you a much better chance of approaching new relationships in a healthy way.
Seeking help with acclimating to life after divorce does not make you weak. It simply means you are intelligent enough to recognize the need for healing. The end of any long term relationship leaves both parties feeling hurt, angry and confused. Divorced women need to confront those feelings instead of burying them deep inside. Support from a trusted counselor or midlife divorce recovery expert can help you determine which reactions are realistic, and which are simply rooted in pain. Making your ex-husband feel worse will not make you feel any better in the long run and makes your divorce recovery more difficult.
You can’t rush your recovery after a big life change like this. Even if you are relieved or happy to have ended the marriage, there is some pain that needs to be dealt with before you can fully move on. Don’t make the mistake of rushing into a new relationship to try and prove you are still worthy of love. Take the time to care for yourself and learn about your wants and desires for a partner first. Your life after divorce should be about strong self-esteem and acceptance of who you really are, not an endless search for approval from others.
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Diane Adkins is a certified life coach, certified neuro-linguistic practitioner, and owner of Better Beyond™ Coaching Solutions, and has dedicated her life to being a Midlife Divorce Recovery Specialist helping women to start living the life they deserve after a midlife divorce.